Comfort and Strength
How to Support a Friend Going Through Trauma and Mental Health Struggles
When someone you love is struggling with their mental health or healing from trauma, it’s hard to know what to say or do. You want to help, but you might worry about saying the wrong thing. Maybe you’ve noticed they’ve been distant, not responding as much, or not acting like themselves. Maybe they’ve shared bits and pieces of their pain, and you don’t know how to show up for them in the right way.
If you’ve been feeling this way, you’re not alone—and neither is your friend.
The truth is, when someone is dealing with trauma or mental health challenges, they don’t always know how to ask for support. They may pull away, not because they don’t care about you, but because they’re overwhelmed. They may struggle to find the words to explain what they’re going through. But your presence, your patience, and your willingness to listen can mean everything.
Top 10 Things Your Friend Going Through Trauma Wishes You Knew
When someone you love has been through trauma, you want to help—but it’s not always clear how. Trauma changes the way a person sees the world, themselves, and relationships. Here’s what they wish you knew:
1. I don’t always have the words to explain what I’m feeling.
Sometimes, the emotions are too big, too complicated, or too overwhelming. Just sitting with me in silence can mean everything.
2. Trauma doesn’t just “go away.”
Healing takes time. Telling me to “move on” or “just let it go” makes it worse.
3. Small things can trigger big emotions.
A smell, a sound, or a place can bring back painful memories. Please be patient with me.
4. I don’t need advice, I need support.
You don’t have to fix me. Just being here and listening helps more than you know.
5. Some days, I won’t be myself.
Trauma affects my mood, energy, and trust. If I seem distant, it’s not because I don’t care about you.
6. Please don’t take my struggles personally.
If I withdraw or push you away, it’s not about you, it’s about what I’m dealing with inside.
7. Asking if I’m okay means a lot.
Even if I say I’m fine, knowing you care matters more than you realize.
8. I might need help, but I don’t always know how to ask.
Encouraging me to seek therapy or reminding me I’m not alone can make a difference.
9. Healing isn’t a straight line.
Some days will be better, some will be worse. Please don’t judge my progress.
10. Your support means everything.
Even when I don’t say it, your kindness, patience, and presence help me heal. If your friend is going through trauma, therapy can be a life-changing step. Let’sTalk! Counseling is here to help.
How to Support a Friend Who’s Struggling
If your friend is dealing with trauma or mental health challenges, you might be wondering, How can I help?
1. Listen Without Trying to “Fix” It
You don’t need to have all the answers. Just being there is enough. Instead of giving advice, try:
- “I’m here for you, no matter what.”
- “You don’t have to go through this alone.”
- “It’s okay to feel this way. I won’t judge you.”
2. Be Patient with Their Healing Process
Trauma and mental health struggles don’t have a quick fix. Some days will be better than others. If they cancel plans or seem distant, don’t take it personally—just keep showing up in small ways. A simple “Thinking of you” text can mean a lot.
3. Remind Them They’re Not a Burden
People struggling with mental health often feel like they’re “too much” for others. Reassure them that their feelings are valid and that they don’t have to carry everything alone.
4. Encourage Professional Support—Gently
If your friend seems open to it, encourage therapy in a way that feels supportive, not pushy:
- “I care about you and want you to have the support you deserve.”
- “Would you want me to help you find someone to talk to?”
5. Take Care of Yourself, Too
Supporting someone through trauma can be heavy. It’s okay to set boundaries and take breaks when you need to. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone—And Neither Does Your Friend
Being there for a friend who is struggling is a beautiful, selfless act. But you don’t have to hold everything on your own.
If your friend needs support, or if you need guidance on how to help them, Let’sTalk! Counseling is here for both of you. Healing happens in connection. You’re not alone, and neither is your friend.
Reach Out for Support, Guidance, and Healing
Don’t hesitate to connect with Let’s Talk Counseling. Whether you’re ready to schedule a session, have questions about our services, or simply want to explore how we can assist you on your journey to well-being, we’re here for you. Our dedicated team is eager to listen, support, and provide the guidance you need. Contact us today to take the first step towards a healthier and more fulfilling life.