“I’m fine” might be the most common thing people say when they’re not.
Amy English, LPC-S, our Clinical Director, made a short video for anyone who keeps saying it and doesn’t quite mean it.
Why we say it
Amy lists a few reasons that come up a lot:
- It’s become a habit.
- You genuinely may not know how you feel.
- You’re used to being the strong one.
- You don’t want to burden anyone.
- You want to minimize the situation.
None of these make you dishonest. They’re ways of getting through the day. Over time, though, “fine” can cover up what’s really going on, even from yourself.
One question to ask yourself
Amy suggests this: “If I didn’t have to make anyone comfortable right now, how would I be feeling? What would I actually say?”
The honest answer might be “I’m overwhelmed.” It might be “I’m hurt.” Or it might be “I don’t know how I feel, but I know I’m not okay.”
“That’s a great place to start,” Amy says.
Where to go from there
Saying it to yourself is the first step. Saying it to someone else is the next one, whether that’s a friend, a family member or a counselor. Our therapists help adults work through anxiety, depression and stress and burnout, at our Carrollton office or online anywhere in Texas. Send us a message or call (972) 885-1222.
If you’re in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, any time of day.